i'm not a "romantic" in the traditional parlance of the word and my darling wife would vouch for that. however:
- …i do remember the day i met her (some 3000+ days back) as if it were this morning…
- …i do remember the quick smile as we were introduced (from across the room)…
- …i do remember the ambling walk to the beach and the wide-ranging chatter (mostly on her part, as would be obvious to our common friends)…
- …i do remember THE DECISION itself (not quite a movie-style climactic crescendo, i like to believe that by the time we came to that point, all that was left was the “formal” question and answer – that we had each individually already decided)…
- …i do remember that we’ve lived in 5 different houses (only some of them count as “homes”) in 3 different cities in 2 different countries…
- …i do remember that we’ve visited 11 countries (not counting the two we’ve lived in)…
- …i do remember that today is our 8th anniversary (i can almost hear the cliché shattering)…
- …i do remember we’ve spent each of our anniversaries in a different place (by choice, its one of our customary annual vacations)…
that’s a whole lot of numbers that would not really mean much if not for what we’ve learnt from each other:
- …how to let another person totally, completely and uninhibitedly into your life…
- …how to recognize each other’s alter-egos and not to think you’re dealing with a different person…
- …how to argue, debate, fight, nag, hassle, pester and badger each other without getting annoyed or irritated…
- …how to stand up for each other without realizing it or acknowledge that you’re doing it…
- …how to understand each other without speaking a word…
- …how to completely misunderstand each other and laugh about it later…
- …how to feel totally at ease doing things that you would otherwise never do…
- …how to spend a majority of your waking hours with another person and never feel bored…
none of this would be possible without the things we have in common:
- …love of travel, seeing new places and people (see above!)…
- …the conviction to take things as they come (trust in God but lock your door at night)…
- …sloth (our common favourite pastime is to curl up on a comfy sofa with a book)…
- …F.R.I.E.N.D.S. (we have the entire series on DVD and have watched it a zillion times)…
to name only a few.
…or the ways in which we are totally different:
- …she can’t stand my Formula 1 obsession and i loathe her fashion/ shopping fetish…
- …she jabbers incessantly and i enjoy the sounds of silence…
- …she loves the sea and i can’t get enough of mountains…
- …she has tons of friends and i’m a “closet introvert”…
again, to name only a few.
what does this all mean? 8 fruitful years and a truckload of good times for starters…and 8 more years for you to wait for my next post…
see you same place, same time in 2019!
* S refers to the wonderful man I am married to! ( if you didn't already know!)
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